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Mrs. Barker's February Newsletter
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Monday, February 12, 2018

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Andrew Avenue Elementary School


Mrs. Barker, School Counselor        February Newsletter


Dealing with Anger……..

Anger is a healthy emotion to have.  It's important to remember that it's okay for kids (and adults!) to get angry.  It's what we DO with that anger that can be either healthy or unhealthy.  One way to talk to your kids about anger is to teach them the “Stop light”  Strategy. Have your child visualize a stoplight  and follow the three steps that correspond with the colors of a traffic light: STOP = In that red zone we need to recognize when we are angry and stop to take some deep breaths. THINK = In this yellow zone, students slow down to can plan for (and think out) solutions to deal with the angry feelings. GO = Kids get a green light to implement the solutions they have come up with.  Anger is a tough emotion to tame. The more kids can practice managing their emotions early on, the easier the it will be to manage the tough stuff later in life!


Stress can be difficult for kids and parents, and we all know how much stress can infiltrate our daily lives. Here are some tips for kids and parents to stay stress free:

  • Change is tough: Be aware that change (both positive and negative) can be stressful on kids. Try to keep a routine that is solid, and if things are going to change, make sure that you talk to your child about the changes.

  • Make time to relax: Overscheduling can be hard on kids and parents. Make sure that you kids have some downtime each day!

  • Be a role model: Teach your child some of the coping skills that you use, and model them when you’re feeling stressed! Deep breathing, self talk and going to a “happy place” are all things kids can do when they are under stress.

  • Coping statements are key: Just like when we deal with anger, it's important to create some self talk to help kids cope with stress. “Stay calm, just relax”, “I can get through this”, or “Slow down, take a few deep breaths” are all examples of self talk statements your child can use.

  • Be positive: Remind kids that most of the time, stress is temporary.  Often it may seem like the stress will never go away when you or your child is in the middle of a stressful situation.  Remind your child (and yourself) that stress is temporary and it usually begins to go away when you take steps to solve the problem.


Classroom lessons


This month, students will learn to identify triggers and their body's’ reactions.  This is key in learning how to manage anger and stress.  Once students are able to identify these areas, they are more likely to implement the following strategies they will be learning and practicing this month!


  • Count backwards from 10.

  • Take 3 deep breaths.

  • Exercise or play to let off some steam/energy.

  • Find a quiet place.

  • Vent!  Talk to someone!

  • Tell yourself calming statements. (It’s okay.  Keep calm.  Relax.)

  • Lie down and relax.

  • Tense your body- then relax it. (Repeat)

  • Use an I-Message. (I feel angry when you ___.  I want you to ___.)

  • Think peaceful thoughts. (holding your pet, hugging a parent)

  • Walk away.

  • Avoid anger triggers

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